I'm not a fan of self-help or motivation books because I don't believe them. I always feel whatever those authors mentioned in their books only applicable to them and every individual is different. I tried to read a few before and I felt it was time wasting and I promised I won't read those books anymore. So, I was hesitant at the beginning to read this book.
However, the first chapter of this book already won my interest to continue reading it. This book is straight to the point, telling the readers just to accept shit happens and stop chasing for perfection. This is so different from other books which continuously asking you to keep telling yourself that you can do it, keep trying, take someone's achievements as a goal and lots of bullshit and crap. How does it motivate you when it makes you more depressing? Everyone is uniquely different. You probably know how to dance, and it doesn't mean all successful people know how to dance. It's just because they are famous or rich, it doesn't mean they are perfectly smart. And it's because you're not as famous or rich as them, it doesn't mean you are not successful.
The best lesson from the first chapter is to prioritise what f*cks to give. Give a f*ck about something more important than adversity. That is so true. Sometimes I don't give a f*ck about others because I'm too tired with their bad attitudes, but it's not easy. I have to admit that sometimes I do get upset about certain unimportant things, but when I calm myself down and have a more profound thought about it, I will ask myself. Why do I want to give a f*ck about it? It's just a trivial matter, and some people are just passersby in my life. It's just our lives cross paths due to unexpected occasions or events and why I need to bother about what a passer-by said or done? It's not simple, and I'm still learning it, but it's a piece of valuable advice: Prioritise. Reserve the f*cks for what truly matters. Like what the author mentioned in the book, that's probably the only thing I want to keep trying instead of continuously giving f*cks to anything.
More reviews can be found on Goodreads: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life.